Getting In Too Deep

I just wish people were smart enough to know when to get out of a relationship that isn’t good for them before it gets too deep. Many times people try to “work it out” when it’s nothing that needs to be worked out. Sometimes things happen and the aftermath should be to let the relationship go. When you keep working it out over and over, you end up getting in too deep. The deeper you get, the harder it is emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically to get out of. It’s harder getting a divorce versus breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s harder trying to find out who’s going to get the kids on the 2^nd and 4^th weekend of the month versus dividing you guys’ DVD collection. I’ve seen the aftermath of staying in an untrustworthy/unhealthy relationship with someone you’re married to and/or have kids with. That shit gets ugly. These things traumatize people for life to the point where they think every man/woman is no good, they can’t trust again, they can’t love again. Everyone doesn’t turn bitter; some people just simply shut down. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to spend my whole life bitter or shut down. I’ve had a share of relationships, one relationship in particular that I can honestly say I almost got too deep in but thankfully I let it go. My life now would be so different and I would be so different. Yes, I did try to “work it out” but it got to the point where working it out was just simply in vain. Yes, it hurts to let go, but sometimes it doesn’t hurt to let go because you’ve been hurt so much in the relationship, that when you finally let go it’s a huge relief! It’s just so many signs that I saw that lead me to let it go. People tend to ignore signs…why!? You don’t ignore traffic signs so it shouldn’t be any different. Most people say listen to your heart…that’s all good in dandy but sometimes you have to listen to your brain and your gut. I’m not a ride or die chick; I can’t die riding with someone and I won’t let someone kill me emotionally and/or mentally either. Relationships should make you and your partner better, not worse. If you’re just in it for the sex, or for a Valentine…like come on man, you need serious help and need to look into loving yourself first and understand that it is okay to be alone. But as I said before, being in too deep is harder on people that actually are…in too deep. I can’t imagine how it would feel to have had a husband/wife and kids and deciding to let that go. You’re trying to get out of the relationship because you know it would be the best thing for you, but you know divorcing is not the best thing for the kids. But at the same time you want to be happy, but you know you can’t truly be happy because the life you thought you had is now ruined, and you know the kids are going to have a hard timing juggling two different households. Oh my, there are so many different scenarios of how things could have gotten to that point or how things could turn out, but at the same time there can be a light at the end of the tunnel. Where is that light? Umm…I don’t know because I’ve never been through something like that before. But people who have tell me there is a light. The only question is how long is your tunnel and how bright does your light shine?