I Look At Any Kind of Relationship as a Business

Can I not apply how I would run a business to my life? If someone asks me for a service, but my service doesn’t fit their needs or they can’t afford it, I would refer them to someone that could fit their needs. I told this guy that we weren’t going to work. He said he was cool with it and told me I was acting awkward. I told him I wasn’t and we can be friends. All we did was kiss so I didn’t see why not and he didn’t see why not as well. I saw one of my homegirls and she was single and looking for someone. I felt that maybe the both of them could hit it off. I told him about it and he thought I was crazy. He felt I was trying to rub in the fact that I said it wouldn’t work. No, I was just trying to refer him to another service since my service didn’t fit his needs. What’s wrong with that?

If I was selling a product and they kept telling me no, would I try to keep selling that product to them? I don’t think so. When I break it off with a guy, sometimes I can tell if they’re hurt or not, depending on how bad the break up is. I try to squeeze myself back into their lives by letting them know that I don’t want to lose our friendship that we had before we became girlfriend boyfriend. Most of the time it works and we make amends and we stay good friends. You can say that those are the deals that I closed after the continuous presentations of my product until finally they signed on the dotted line. But there are times, very rare, when I don’t get the deal and they don’t want to have anything to do with me. I will not keep trying as soon as I see that the deal is really and truly completely dead. There is no need to keep trying, just move on to the next potential customer. What’s wrong with that?

Anyone in business can tell you that your need to leave your feelings at the door before you come to work because you will get them hurt. Business is business and it has nothing to do with how I feel about you, it’s about making the right decisions that can further your career. If I have a friend that isn’t going anywhere in life, why would I continue to surround myself with that ambiance. If I try to help them time and time again and they don’t want to do better, then I must leave. Yes, I may think you’re a nice person but you’re not helping me reach my potential. I need people who are trying to do things as well. Misery loves company and friends can become jealous. You will have enough people that hate you; your friends shouldn’t be one of them. That means that you have to make a decision to develop new insightful friendships. This same incident can go along with relationships as well. If you’re partner isn’t helping you reach your goals and is just causing problems in your life, then you are shrinking, not growing and that is a problem. It doesn’t matter about all the feelings you may have for that person because at the end of the day you’re not getting a return on your investment. It’s time to find someone or something else to invest in. Business is business. What’s wrong with that?