Surprise!…You’re Going To Take A Different Route

Have you ever had things happen and you’re like, “What the hell! How did that even come about?” I’m sure you have. That’s life; there is no set path even if you try to map out one for yourself. You better have a plan A, B, C if you want to feel like you have some control of your life. You can look around you and see how things people thought would happen…didn’t. You know that college graduate who majored in acting but had to become a manager at a clothing store in order to make ends meet. You may think, acting? Why would they major in that because everyone knows that that’s not a guarantee pay check like majoring in business would have? They didn’t major in business because they had planned their whole life around acting and they just knew they were going to make it, but the decision makers said differently. You could say sometimes you’re life doesn’t turn out the way you wanted because God saw differently and felt you needed to walk another path, His path. I broke up with this guy I thought I would spend the rest of my life with like a month or so ago after or second time of trying it again. I can say that this past time went further than the previous time because we were engaged; so time wasn’t wasted. After the break up I had a lot of people trying to cheer me up but I didn’t need it. I had already seen some of the most influential people in my life go through the same thing and I could recall all of their stories.

I knew my father’s story all too well. He gave up gorgeous, intelligent, driven young women in his younger days because he always ran back to my mother. She is beautiful but she lacks all the other qualities. He said she had a hold on him, she had his heart. She screwed him over so many times and she still hasn’t done better for herself. She’s going to bring him drama as long as he lives because they are bound together by their children. Even after they both re-married, she still caused and is causing him drama. If he would of saw she wasn’t any good for him after the fifth time of going back to her, then he would have been better off.

I knew my older sister’s story. She was with a man for about two years. The whole family just adored him, like he could do no wrong. He treated her like a good man should. But one day, she walks into his apartment because she has the key, and who does she see? Another woman who claims that she is my sister’s boyfriend girlfriend. I know that was a heartbreaker. She broke it off and started dating guys she used to date. She should have known that that wouldn’t last long because if it’s an ex, then it became an ex for a reason, yes even though they may have changed. She then started dating new people and eventually met this guy, a customer she saw at one of her jobs. They just moved in together last month and has gone ring shopping.

And then there is my aunt. She is not my aunt biologically but she will always be near and dear to the family. She was in a relationship with my uncle for the longest! Everyone thought that they would get married after they graduated college. Yes, they had their hard times but we always knew they would work it out and get back together. My uncle and I are very close, so one day when I was 11 years old I saw some random woman walk into my grandparent’s house. He tells me that she is having his child. I couldn’t believe it! I was like omgee what happen to my aunt. My aunt had told me, “Life happens people make mistakes and you have to move on, in order to find happiness.” This is nothing against my new aunt that I got introduced to that day because I love her as well. But my aunt did move on and she is married as well with kids.

One thing that my sister and aunt don’t do is contact their ex’s because they know that their partners wouldn’t appreciate that and it would be disrespectful to them. If you had something that deep with someone, then you’re not supposed to look back; especially if it didn’t end in the ‘happy ending’. My father has no choice since he still has children with her that are under 18. But I will say that not doing this is what ended my relationship mentally with my ex-fiancé before it even was over physically.

But the underlining of this post was that life has many surprises, whether it is career wise or relationship wise. Everything will not go the way you planned, but it’s all about how you handle it.