Relationships Cost
I don’t know why people think they can have a growing/successful relationship with someone when they’re broke. When I speak about being broke, I’m speaking of time and money. You can be rich and buy your partner everything, but if you only show your face every three months, then that relationship will eventually come crashing down. We are in the new age of technology; there is no reason that a Skype call or something can’t be done in order to show that you are still whole-heartily in the relationship. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, but some people take that out of context to the point where they think never checking in is okay, just because of the gifts they have bought. Cliché but ♫Love Don’t Cost A Thing♫ by Jennifer Lopez did make a point. But at the same time, the song was also a lie. People who say that their love doesn’t cost anything…Straight Lies! Let’s come to the reality of things; most people in relationships are prostitutes without directly having the title. So many men and women have sex with potential partners or their partners as a “treat”, because their partner has recently bought them something, or took them somewhere. It’s the same thing, just not as straight-forward as prostitution would be. All these things cost money. Me personally, I get bored in relationships easily. How does one become bored? By doing nothing, or doing the same things that have already been done by other partners in the past. Doing nothing consists of exactly what it says. Doing nothing could be because your partner doesn’t know what you like to do, so you all just end up sitting there and do nothing, can’t afford the things you like to do, or is just broke. Love does cost. When guys/ladies “woo” you by buying you gifts, taking you on dates, or even cooking for you; I don’t think people realize that all of that costs. No one just openly dates someone that doesn’t do anything for them. And for those that just have physical relationships, even sex dates cost. Who is paying for the gas in the car, the condoms, birth control, washing of the sheets afterwards, food if you all get hungry…Money. Now, you may have money, but not enough money. If you only make Converse money, but a guy is used to his lady getting him a pair of Jordan’s or Gucci Loafers…what will you do to make up for it? If a lady is used to trips to different states/countries, or up-scale restaurants and you only have Chili’s money…what will you do to make up for it? Yes, the relationship can last a while, but eventually comparisons to their exes will come about. In order to never make the comparisons come about, you have to be different and go above and beyond what they are used to. This can be a financial struggle based upon they’re past relationships. So you begin to wonder why did they get with you in the first place if they know they have higher standards now because of past relationships, or just because they are used to a certain lifestyle? The answer is easy: They thought that they weren’t shallow and that money didn’t mean a thing. Lies! Yes personality and maybe even the physical can help make up for the lack of money, but eventually those will be null and void if the cash flow hasn’t increased. If you don’t want to invest time and money into a relationship, then just be single. A relationship is literally like owning your own business. If you expect it to grow, you must increase your time and financial investment if you don’t want a competitor to take your customer.