What You Want You Can’t Afford

Fly outs are so real huh? You really like him/her huh? But can you afford it…huh? Money. Does money matter? To an extent, yes. Money isn’t everything but you surely can be screwed without it. I’ve traveled around the world. I’ve met tons of guys and exchanged social media information in order to stay in contact. But what is hilarious to me is reading, “Do you not like me? Why won’t you come see me? You can stay with me. I want you to marry me. We can have babies and I work.” Obviously my western ways laugh at this because I will not be sitting in the house taking care of babies all day and night. I won’t be popping out a clan of babies either. This uterus is not open for business buddy. But the ultimate knee slapper is guys wanting you to come see them. If I really like you, I will break a rule and fly out to see you first…but if I do that…know that it will be your job to come to me the next 2 times if not 3. The roles are really twisted. I’ve never seen guys want the lady to go so far out of her way to come to him, especially repeatedly. Why does a guy want a female, but then wants her to do the chasing? Is this the new thing to do? I can’t put an age on it because I’ve heard 40 year olds say the same thing. I may be an alien because this is not what’s hot in the streets. So that’s why I say that there are too many guys out here that want what they can’t afford. She can live in the next county over, and a guy will still tell her that she needs to “come thru.” No! You get in your car, your friends car, your dad’s car, whatever…and you “come thru”. Same thing goes with flights. If you can’t afford to fly to see me or to send me a ticket because you want to see me so bad…then you must not really want to see me. Women are making it so easy. If he can’t afford to come see you, or to send you a ticket…why do you think he can afford to build with you and handle the household that he’s supposed to be head of? I love independent women; I respect them because I am one. But there is no way that I’m going to make it easy on these men. They want to act like they’re the head, they want to talk like they’re the head, have the privileges of being the head…well be the head. I could be making seven figures a year, but don’t assume that I’m automatically coming to you. If you really want to see me and you can’t afford a ticket…I’m laughing at you. It’s hilarious. These men don’t really want to see these females that bad. There’s no way they could. What’s even worse is when these women give up their bodies after already giving up their money, time, or gas to come to them. Do they really deserve what you give them? Why are you coming out of pocket for everything anyway? Have some of these men seen their single moms do it all on their own, that they expect these women out here to do the same? I’m not babying a man; because a man doesn’t need to be babied. If he wants to see me, he will make a way. Now don’t get me wrong…this is during the courting stages. Sure, if you are in a relationship, you both need to be making the effort to fit the bill if you all mean that much to each other. But even then, don’t let one person fit 75% of the bill and the other is only fitting 25%. Don’t go broke trying to be in a relationship because yes, relationships are freaking expensive. Even if it’s just buying two meals every time you all go out so ya’ll both can eat. That eventually adds up. So, if you can’t afford to fly out, or to send her a ticket because you really miss her *sad face*, then you can’t afford her and you don’t need her. Go on and get someone that lives no more than 15 minutes away. Or just find you someone who loves your stinky draws and will do anything for you, even though she doesn’t even really know you. There are plenty of lonely women out there looking for love and will do anything to get/find it. Think about what…better yet who you really can afford. It’s okay. Humble yourself. Lol!