Being a Supportive Mate
I’ve never had a guy support me as much, or even more than I have supported him. As women, we are known to be the cheerleaders. To whoop and holler in the stands for not only our mates, our children, our friends, even our animals lol. I know I have made posters for my male friends since high school. I’ve always wanted them to know that whether you win or lose…when you look at me, know that I’m proud of you either way. But the funny thing is…not that many males do that for females. Are males too cool? Do they keep their feelings inside? Do they feel they have better things to worry about? Do they feel their mind is full of “manly duties” that they can’t even comprehend being cheerleaders? But I will not give them the benefit of the doubt. Do you know why? Because I have seen fathers cheer their daughters on like something serious. This blog post crossed my mind after seeing, how excited, how proud and how hard Hungarian swimmer, Katinka Hosszú’s, husband cheered for her during the Olympics. Like…he lost his shit and I loved every single minute of it. I’ve noticed other fathers and husbands lose their shit as well while watching their love ones compete. I can recall all the guys who wanted me at their games, who smiled as I cheered for the little things, as I listened to their music or observed their drawings, as I showed them love for their good grades and job promotions they received and I cheered on their dreams, goals and ambitions. I cannot recall one guy…not one guy I’ve talked to, dated, or even been in a relationship with that has done the same. I would ask why…but why? They are selfish; they see me as an extension of them, not a separate being. I can even say that some are probably nervous that the higher I go, the less I will need them. They don’t even realize and believe me when I say I don’t need any guy and they were there because I wanted them. Maybe they feel I would eventually want someone else. Or maybe they don’t see the things I do as an “accomplishment” and therefore just write it off. Whatever the reason is, I’m not here to pen point every reason there could be for every guy. I’m here to point out that if my next guy doesn’t cheer for me as much as I cheer for him…he will be cut. You can call it stupid, but I call it being real. Why can’t guys lose their shit for the one they’re with like they do for their favorite sports teams? *Turns to a guy* Why can’t you return the support?