Chivalry’s Existence?

Chivalry’s Existence?

I’ve had the privilege to be brought up primarily by my father, have males around me whether it is my brother or uncle, spend a lot of time with my male friends, and have had my share of dates and boyfriends in order to sit back and be able to challenge the idea of chivalry being in existence. I look at chivalry as more of a floating ghost, like that of Casper. Chivalry isn’t completely dead, but it is rare that one will find it. I have come across the male that doesn’t believe in chivalry. That male will let the door nearly smack you in the face behind him, the one that doesn’t wait for you to get a taxi before he leaves you in an unfamiliar place after a date. That’s also the male that looks for you to pick up your side of the tab and the tip, and the one that constantly wants to ‘bum’ rides off of you without even asking, but just telling. There is another kind of male, the one that believes in chivalry. He is the one that just insist on picking up the full tab and even putting up a fight in order to let you just pay the tip, the one that walks you to your door to make sure you get home safely. He is also the one that pulls your chair out, introduces you to colleagues that he may run into while you all are out and about, and says sorry he has to take a call before just leaving the table or the conversation that you two were having. But there is also that third kind of male that people tend to overlook; the male who believes in chivalry but his actions are slowly fading because the woman is stressing the fact that she doesn’t need his help. I am guilty to this 100% completely. I tend to blame this on my father, seeing that he always told me that if I need anything I can come to him because he doesn’t want me to need a man for anything. I took that attitude and can honestly say I’ve intimidated a lot of males and even made them stop some of their chivalry tactics, because they knew I would just shut them down by denying them. I have talked to a lot of ‘independent’ women that do similar things and are trying to break that habit just like I am, because eventually women have to let men be men; it’s a male ego/pride thing. But women have to stop complaining about chivalry dying out if they are one of the foremost causes for it gradually fading away or being put on the back burner. As I mentioned before, chivalry is a floating ghost…rare but it is there.