Embrace Yourself!
My younger sister had to model in charity event and I was picking out outfits for her. My mother came in and said that she needed a dress to cover up. My younger sister is 14 years old, 5’9”, slender build, and since she is so slender, her boobs tend to stand out more. She’s only a 34-B but it looks a bigger because once again, she is slim. I’ve noticed that since she hit puberty she covers up her upper body a lot when she’s around the house, she doesn’t even like getting dressed in front of me anymore like I’m going to criticize her. After my mom left, I had a talk with her. She said she tries to cover up as much as she can, and I shook my head. Parents don’t realize how much they make their children self-conscious. Adolescents are already having it hard enough in high school; they don’t need the criticism about their body changes. Every one of all ages should embrace their bodies. So what if other people don’t like it, they don’t have to because it’s obviously not their body. I have small boobs and a small booty but I don’t care because I love myself regardless. I still feel beautiful regardless of someone else’s opinion. And yes I do understand how it feels to want someone else’s body or just want to change yourself. When I was younger I was overweight and I knew there were certain outfits I just wasn’t going to be able to pull off. But with maturity comes understanding, with understanding comes growth, with growth comes acceptance, with acceptance becomes confidence, and with confidence you no longer want to be anyone but yourself. Regardless of what God has given you body wise…just take it, accept it, and move on. Everyone isn’t going to see what you see when you look in the mirror, and that’s perfectly okay.
Prince Arnold
And The Best Big Sister Award goes to….
But all of that you just said is true. Your first taste of the real world comes from out of your parent's mouth. They might not know it.. but you learn from them. That is how generational things like racism, obesity, prejudice and things of that nature occur. Especially women with body issues. They instill in you this fear of things all the while thinking they are protecting you from it. That age old not cutting you with the sword, but showing you the blade trick. Or the infamous glass ceiling. Jump and jump till you learn not to jump again. You would think parents would be the ones to open doors and windows instead slamming them shut. But that's that parental mindset, if it can't get to you or you can't get to it…it won't hurt you.. But that's what big sisters and brothers are for. They know.
C.Nichole
" They instill in you this fear of things all the while thinking they are protecting you from it. That age old not cutting you with the sword, but showing you the blade trick." That's real. Maybe one day they'll see what they're doing…maybe.