Like vs. Want vs. In Like vs. Love
My producer friend on Facebook wrote a status that got me thinking. I never even thought about it like that. It wrote:
To like someone means you enjoy their company or who they are. To want someone means you like em enough to take on the issues and responsibilities that come with them, and then go a step further by claiming them in some way. The difference is effort and commitment. – Emani
It all started making sense. The guys I talked to and/or dated were only people I liked. That’s it…I only liked them. I wasn’t willing to take on the issues and responsibilities that came with them. There are only a handful of males that I’ve actually wanted. And this works both ways. Do you know how many guys that I just lost contact with, in the sense of us both not reaching out to each other? You can like me all day, like the idea of me…but you don’t really want me. Everyone has things about them that you have to be willing to take on. I’ll leave those things about me for another blogpost that I have in mind, but it is what it is.
But then I wanted to take it a step further and speak on being “in like” vs actually saying you “love” someone. I’m not even about to talk about being “in love” because that takes it a step even further. But I will say that it’s totally easier being in like with someone. Most of the people that are running around talking about they “love” someone…they really actually are only “in like” with them. Love is pure. Being a fan of your partner’s genitals is you being “in like”. Love can be love without the physical. Love is seeing past your partner’s flaws and seeing nothing but perfection in them, because after all they are perfect for you. Love is giving your last to make sure that you both can survive. Love is selfless. No…you aren’t willing to be selfless because you are only “in like”. And there’s nothing wrong with that. I personally enjoy being “in like”…love is challenging; humbling and full of sacrifices. And also enjoy “liking” a guy, but that doesn’t mean that I’m going to “want” him. As I said before…it just is what it is. Just don’t confuse the four.