Stop Explaining Yourself
Stop explaining to others about why you’re not married or don’t have any kids! I’m writing this as a 25 year old who is single and childless. Everyone doesn’t have the same goals in life, isn’t on the same time frame as the masses, or simply is 100% content. The older I get I see people my age explaining to their parents, grandparents, and associates on why they are alone. Everyone doesn’t get lonely and some people are truly happy with themselves. Have you ever heard of wanting to wait and not rushing into finding “the one”? Kids are stupid expensive. If I had kids, I know I wouldn’t be able to travel like I do now, or I would have to work twice as hard and/or find a better job lol. It just wouldn’t be possible to keep up my lifestyle. This generation just struggles with commitment and finances. Getting married in your mid 20’s can easily be pushed up into your mid 30’s now. Plus divorce is so real, so why fault someone who has standards and wants to be happy with the right person. Why call someone selfish, because they only want to care for themselves? Everyone doesn’t have to pop it open and bust out a baby to be selfless. Actually, the person that is telling people like myself that we’re selfish, no you’re f-in selfish! Selfish for thinking that you’re life has more meaning, because you have to raise another human being that you decided to create. And yes, I play around with the whole “I’m going to be an old maid with cats” joke. But people have to stop telling these ladies that they’re going to be old maids with cats because they don’t want just anybody. It’s funny how a man can be single all his life, no family and be called a bachelor, and it’s socially acceptable. F that! I am a bachelorette and I’m claiming it now! If you haven’t found the right mate, don’t worry about a husband or wife. Who is meant for you…will come. It’s inevitable; and if he or she doesn’t show, oh freaking well. You were born alone, you will die alone. And kids? There are so many kids in this world who need a loving home. It’s so easy not to be childless, if motherhood/fatherhood is what you’re after. There’s adoption, surrogates, foster homes, family member kids who aren’t being taken care of, or you can simply marry someone who already has a kid. I can say that at 25, I enjoy traveling the world, doing what I want and with any decisions I make, I will only have to reap the consequences; I am responsible for solely me. I don’t have to worry about feeding, clothing, teaching a younger one. I don’t have to worry about loving, caring, supporting a mate. So when people want you to explain why you’re one, instead or a duo or clan, be respectful and say, “It’s just not my time; but in due time.” Or be like me and say, “Cause I don’t want your life. At least no time soon.” Lmao 😛